Lesson 46

What should I do about my secret fears?

Many wives share that they experienced secret fears as they worked through the issues of sexual impurity with their husbands. Some worried about the future of their marriage, the possible breakup of their family, uncertainty about their financial security, or similar concerns. Kristi learned about her husband’s extra-marital affair on their twentieth anniversary. “It was such a letdown to the celebration I thought the day was going to be. In addition, fears ramped up quickly regarding the other woman, possible STDs, the future of our marriage, and what people would think if they found out. It was a panic-laden situation for me and I felt physically ill as well as emotionally fragile.”

Kristi spoke with a few trusted individuals who gave her godly counsel, especially to share her fears directly with the Lord. “Although it took a lengthy period of time to unravel our mess and rebuild our marriage, it was truly God’s intervention that kept me sane and reduced my fears through the roller-coaster ride we experienced. Without Him, I feel sure we would not have made it through such a time of need.”

Jesus said, “If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.” (John 15:7)