Lesson 89

How Can I Set My Priorities To Encourage My Husband?

Living in close relationship with our husbands, it is easy to let annoyances bring out words or actions that can actually make the situation worse. Our own standards, expectations, and preferences may seem like the only right way, yet we must consider that building up our husband and his spiritual life may take extra wisdom and understanding from God.

Sandra learned to change her expectations and sense of entitlement to be heard. “Be slow to speak and quick to listen. I have the feeling that I am slow to speak initially but opening my mouth is sometimes like opening the faucet and everything just pours out. This is in part due to pride, thinking that what I have to say is so valuable and so helpful that I just need to impart my words on the listener, especially my husband. I’m working on it!”

Sandra continues, “I am also learning to say no to some good things so that I can have energy to steward my home and my marriage relationship. This is hard because there are so many fun and worthy endeavors that I could invest in. I pray for wisdom and clarity to avoid confusion from the enemy as I navigate the daily and weekly details of life. Spending time with the Lord is so important. As I receive His love and abide in it, I can show that love to my husband and build him up as we grow in our spiritual lives together.”