Lesson 10

May 27

How can I help strengthen our communication?

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver. Like a gold ring or an ornament of gold is a wise reprover to a listening ear. Like the cold of snow in the time of harvest is a faithful messenger to those who send him; he refreshes the soul of his masters.”Proverbs 25:11-13

The best way to work through any kind of divisive marriage issue is by using good communication. The communication itself won’t resolve the issue, but it will assist a couple in addressing the matter, especially if it is approached in a godly way. The discovery of sexual impurity can evoke strong emotional reactions that can interfere with keeping spiritual matters a high priority.

Beth chose to take a biblical posture in communicating with her husband. “Good communication is only going to come out of a motivation to build up and encourage my husband. If I enter into a conversation to have my own needs met or my voice heard, I need to check myself. This does not mean I accept passive submission to verbal abuse or an inability to hold my husband accountable, but it does mean evaluating my points in advance to make sure they are constructive and that my perspective is empathetic to respect his thoughts and feelings as well. Emptying myself of selfish motivations will be perceived by him and will help to disarm the situation.”

‘Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.’ (James 1:19)

Suggested prayer: Dear God, help me to strengthen the communication in our marriage so that it is always honoring to You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Information for your prayer partner: Please describe at least two ways that you can work on improving communication with your husband.