Lesson 37

How can I set aside my anger and give it to god?

For a couple desiring to work together to resolve the issues of sexual sin, the conversations and communication should be kind, respectful, and open. It helps if the couple agrees to be on the same side of the problem, giving one another support in this battle with the enemy. The offender must confess the sin and take responsibility for repairing the damage. Taking responsibility includes setting boundaries and accountability standards, as well as making plans to avoid falling for temptation when it occurs. The intent of working together as a couple to resolve any of these matters should be centered on removing anything from their lives that separates them from a strong and healthy relationship with Jesus Christ.

“My default setting is to react in anger when I am the person offended,” Jennifer admitted. “I am now listening to the Lord and dying to myself instead of simply reacting. It is precisely in death where resurrection happens. It is through Jesus that peace overflows my heart. I want to answer my Father’s summons to lean on Him and to allow Jesus to be glorified.” Jennifer has helped other wives facing the same situation. She understands their pain and encourages them to invite Jesus into the broken places of their hearts. She recognizes that not all husbands are ready to address their sins right away. “Prayer is the priority. Cover your husband in prayer, asking the Lord’s hand to be over your marriage. Choose to depend on the Lord’s leading and expect the Lord to be in control regardless of your husband’s response.”