Lesson 36

How can I communicate with my husband about sin?

It’s difficult to discuss sin with another person, particularly one who has sinned against us. This is often the case when the husband’s secret sexual sins come to light. When it comes to the issue of sin, ultimately our husbands have sinned against God. However, our hearts get broke in the process and it makes it hard to keep the discussion on an objective level. Getting the sin into the light can be a struggle, but it is easier when a couple works together.

Danielle was asked how a wife can prepare for communication with her husband over her suspicions of his sexual sins. “I suggest beginning with prayer, asking God to give you the right words to say and the ability to communicate without losing control emotionally,” she said. “Planning what to say is important. If you think writing it out might help, I would suggest giving that a try. Choosing the right time and a private place are also wise. I would suggest that a wife approach her husband with something like: I think we need to talk. Would this be a good time?” She suggested that both of you have plenty of time to devote to a discussion which might take longer than you expect. “There was a time when my husband and I would carry on difficult conversations after we were in bed at night. We found that in the dark and when we were both tired, we were often more unkind to one another than we would have been at other times. Good planning will pay off.“