Lesson 65

Why Should I Stand Strong In Setting Boundaries?

Boundaries help set moral limits for ways to cope with outside influences on our lives. Our personal decision to accept Christ’s salvation leads us to live a life showing evidence of our love for God and others. When we love God, we demonstrate obedience to biblical principles and we apply them by loving others.

Kay learned to set boundaries for herself years before she discovered her husband’s involvement in pornography. “When I set boundaries for myself or for my children, it was often a lonely place to be! I had to stand for what I believed was right. It helped that my husband and I were on the same page. It’s hard to stand firm in your convictions. It takes the strength of the Lord and His peace to make it through when other people challenge your beliefs. I felt strong opposition on some cultural matters, but I stood strong.”

Upon discovery of her husband’s sexual impurity, Kay was glad they had already established boundaries together because they had to do it once again. “The boundaries we set were mutual. My husband and I sat down and had a private talk about the things that needed to change. We both agreed to attend church every week and take notes on the sermon. We agreed to pray as a couple and read the Bible each day. These were things we should have been doing together regularly anyway. I think the key to my husband’s success was that our decisions were mutual. I wasn’t shaming him or forcing him to do anything he didn’t think was right. God blessed his efforts and mine!”