Lesson 38

How do I handle things that might not go the way I want?

It requires special attention to prepare yourself mentally, emotionally, and spiritually to speak the truth in love when you must address a sin issue. Whether it is the first time the topic comes up or one that has been addressed before, the subject is complicated and not an easy fix. There must be a differentiation made between attacking the problem and attacking the person. There should be a firm commitment to getting rid of the guilt without pouring on shame. There must be a plan to fulfill his spiritual needs while eliminating the inappropriate actions of the flesh.

Rebecca wanted to begin the conversation with her husband, yet she knew that she might not get the outcome she desired. As she shared that concern with the Lord in prayer, she also asked Him to convict her of any sin in her own life that she should address. She asked God for comfort in her pain, for a spirit of forgiveness, for the right words to speak, and for respect for her husband in spite of his sins. “I was very clear that I was on his side in addressing the issue while I was also clear that the sin was a grave concern. I did not want him to become defensive because I needed for him to hear what I had to say. I reminded myself to avoid name-calling or an accusatory tone of voice. This was much bigger than just getting my own emotional needs met. I truly wanted the Lord to achieve His greater purposes in my husband’s life.” She can now see that God has been faithful to work in his life.