Lesson 52

How Should I Handle The Conflicts That Divide Us

There are no simple answers about how to handle conflict in marriage. Unfortunately, many of us have memories of not doing it well. However, as we mature in our faith, hopefully we will understand biblical principles that will help us work through conflict in ways that will demonstrate our faith in action.

Kristi knew that things were not right in her marriage, but she could not really figure out what was wrong. “As more clues emerged that my husband was involved inappropriately with another woman, I needed to deal in facts rather than rely on my feelings. In the early stages of discovery, it was easy for him to say that I was jumping to conclusions. I started taking more notice of details so that I could sit down with him calmly to ask questions, share what I knew, and hopefully make some headway into what was going on. I certainly prayed a lot, but I felt very alone during the unraveling stages of learning about his affair. I would have preferred to have a trusted counselor or friend help guide us through this ordeal, but the Lord made Himself very real to me. If I were to make one recommendation to another hurting wife it would be to draw near to God. He will be her Rock and her Savior through any life circumstance. Ours was a long journey to victory but He truly guided me through it and that included helping me find godly people for counsel.”